(Tasha Layton – into the sea)
I’m a problem-solver by nature…but once in a while I have to admit I cannot do everything myself. And I started learning last year how to ask for help…which is how I got a new oven in early December when the smoke alarm wouldn’t stop going off because smoke was pouring out of the oven and the oven wouldn’t turn off and I didn’t know what to do because fanning the alarm was decidedly not working and I was starting to feel like I wasn’t getting enough oxygen…probably I should have run for help as soon as the alarm started going off, but it was so sensitive that just cooking a pizza a minute or two too long set it off if I left the oven open longer than the time it takes to remove the pizza, so the first few minutes were just me being annoyed and it wasn’t until I couldn’t see across my apartment that I realized this was a bigger problem than I could handle on my own…so it was kind of like the boy that cried wolf…although the first time the smoke alarm went off I also didn’t immediately leave either, it took me a couple minutes of grabbing my laptop, notebook, phone, keys, and putting on shoes, and by that time the alarm was already off again…so I can’t claim I am the most responsive person to smoke alarms…I blame middle school when no one cared if I went outside for fire drills so the majority of the time I didn’t, the exception being if I’d been on my way to or from the restroom or otherwise was wandering and caught in an area in which I was locked out of the area containing my notebook and pencil etc until the drill was over in which case I’d go outside since I didn’t have anything better to do…then I got to high school where they would select only one or two classrooms to participate in a fire drill…so all that to say my brain and body have been taught to tune out fire alarms…although I still don’t understand why if a classroom on the second floor was on fire why the classrooms directly above and below it wouldn’t also need to be evacuated, but not my circus, not my monkeys…
So yeah, there are a lot of things I can DIY, but there are also a lot of things I am unable to do it myself…
But I am now armed with the knowledge that the lowest cost fork-lift rental near me is about $250…which is more than I really would like to spend…but the bigger problem is that I realized I had no idea how I would bring the fork lift home because the item I wanted to use it on was currently blocking my car from moving, and I wasn’t really sure what kind of range a fork lift would have to know if I was able to walk to the rental place if I could drive the fork lift all the way home…in the process of trying to ascertain this information I discovered that they usually have three pedals vs the two that cars have…and that was the point at which I realized there may be a bit of a learning curve and perhaps I would need a new one so that I could ensure I had the complete manual (plus then if I owned it I could choose whether to hold onto it for later or sell it to recoup some of the costs)…this was after I determined the ones on Craigslist weren’t going to work for me…as it turns out there are some sites where you can have free delivery…the problem is twofold. First, the reason I want one is because I had an object I would like moved right away, and second, they range in price for things that look nearly identical from about $1000 to tens of thousands of dollars and I don’t want to get one that doesn’t work, but my credit limit isn’t high enough to even think about trying to purchase an expensive one…so I decided I was going to have to hold my horses…and now I have the song patience from Thomas the Tank Engine stuck in my head…which I suppose is better than last week when the rubber ducky song by Kelly Hogan was stuck in my head…
Also, some day I am going to learn not to go outside barefoot when there is snow on the ground…I did very quickly Thursday-ish though figure out that a damp paper towel is not an effective tool for getting millions of footprints off of a porous wooden surface…it probably also wouldn’t have been effective for a singular footprint, but as previously noted, I was barefoot and getting kinda cold so I figured that was another problem it made more sense to give up and throw money at…
It seems like giving up and throwing money at problems is becoming an unwanted super power of mine…I did the same thing with Comcast last week…it took around 5 to 6 hours to finally be connected with a call center employee who repeated the same unhelpful line every time I tried to rephrase the question until I just gave up and was like this isn’t worth my time…
Taking this another direction, sometimes I do not know what the right answer is.
For 2 months I carefully checked the locks as soon as I walked in my door, I was cautious about where I went, I was genuinely worried about what would happen if I was found, so I needed to keep my location secret from anyone who might be likely to share it even inadvertently with the wrong person.
And then I found out someone had been tracking me.
That was initially incredibly terrifying. I had a lot going on that week so I did the best I could to keep working through all the things I needed to do, but that first night I was hiding with the lights off so it would look like I wasn’t home…which was probably excessive, but I was really shaken up. I slept in the living room because those blinds were easier to completely close and since I was furniture-free by that point I could sleep wherever I wanted – I briefly considered the closet before realizing that considering the mouse fiasco and that the mouse had had no fear running past me while I did zoom calls in my closet, it seemed like a bad idea to sleep where I knew the mouse had been since I hadn’t bleached the carpet. Luckily a night to process it and my anxiety significantly decreased – helpful since trying to carry on with life without turning on the lights except when absolutely necessary (aka using the bathroom or trying to prepare for an interview) is kinda challenging. For at least a little while I felt like maybe what I found out meant that for the first time I could feel safe in my own apartment. That was a huge blessing. My safety outside of my apartment when not at friends’ houses may have been compromised, but I felt better about being home.
It’s been up and down a lot since then.
The way I see it there are a few possibilities and I alternate between which one I am most certain is accurate which means my sense of felt safety is all over the place. To be honest, based on the information someone was willing to pass along to me, I knew leaving my apartment at all was probably a risk and had selected a route that seemed like my best and least risky option, and as much as biking helped my body and mind, I now wonder whether it would have been better to just stay home completely. It would have been a much less joyful life, but it would have spared me the terror of finding out I’d been being tracked. I never actually entered the fitness center of my apartment, but perhaps a stationary bike would have been an option in conjunction with my buy nothing escapades that felt a little safer simply because they were so goal-directed and kept me in highly populated areas yet were also fully unpredictable because I checked the group for unsafe faces before participating. I don’t usually let fear limit my life beyond what is needed for a reasonable level of safety, but maybe my calculation of safety was off…but anyway, these are the options as I see it…
- I had been incident-free because person A did not share my location. (safe-ish)
- I had been incident-free because person B decided not to risk being caught doing anything to me in public. (safe)
- I had been incident-free because there isn’t good public transit most of my route (which was part of the selection process on that route) which made it too inconvenient to bother me. (safe mostly)
- I had been incident-free because I had gotten lucky that nothing had happened yet. (unsafe)
- I had been incident-free because most if not all of my weekday rides were at times that would have precluded both being where I was and being at work the hours person B worked. (semi-safe)
- I had been incident-free intentionally in order to eventually catch me off guard and therefore more vulnerable to attack. (very unsafe)
Pretty much 100% unrelated, but as much as I whine about masks, today I kinda wished I’d worn a mask to church…I really only planned on going to church and the library and so I had no reason to bring or wear a mask since if you are in an emergency the hospital I’m sure would provide a mask and obvi I wasn’t planning any scheduled medical visits on a Sunday 🙂 …but one lady who sat adjacent to me smelled like she bathed in perfume and it was really annoying but I didn’t want to be rude and go find somewhere else to sit and it didn’t occur to me to ask at the welcome desk for a mask…that is one thing covid has been great for – people or places smell bad and you can wear a mask which mitigates how uncomfortable it is to be around them, but without the social impoliteness of plugging your nose or pulling your shirt over your face…also if you have misplaced the headband you usually keep sanitized and use in the winter to warm your breathing air and it is really cold outside you can be one of those people who wear a mask when not at the hospital and not even inside and use the mask to warm your air. It is slightly less effective, but I haven’t lost all my masks yet (important as a pharmacist since hospitals are an important part of my world), but I have misplaced my headband.
Speaking of smells, I realized recently that while I’ve claimed for basically ever that I do not like yogurt, actually what I do not like is the smell of yogurt. I do not mind the taste of most yogurts if I don’t have to smell them, but I cannot handle the smell of Greek yogurt, and I do not like the smell of regular yogurt…how did I figure this out? Dark chocolate peppermint yogurt…it looked good. It smelt bad. I plugged my nose and loved the first bite. I then put vaporub in my nose so I couldn’t smell the yogurt and enjoyed the rest of the container. And threw the container in the outside trash to get the smell away from me…it was delicious…So that was a huge paradigm shift…
Also, someday I would really like to actually remember how directionally challenged I am *before* I try to go anywhere…I was like I totally know how to get to the library. I don’t need any directions…umm…what I knew was how to get to Walmart. Walmart is not the library. Luckily, I was 97% sure how to get from Walmart to the library, so after the road I thought would take me to the library brought me face to face with Walmart I made my best guess how to get to the library from there and I was actually right about that…so I just took the very scenic route to the library…someday I will learn that directions are important…today just wasn’t that day.
Also 100% unrelated, but way back whenever daylight savings happened I did not fully participate…unplugging my clock in mid-December was how I dealt with that…and I still haven’t changed my watch…but I decided that it was time to get back on a schedule that correlates with the rest of the world…which is all well and good, but my body was like why stop at one time zone? Why don’t we just shift everything by like 4 or 5 hours…which is how we transitioned from the girl who goes to bed between 8 and 9 depending on what clock you use (when not hanging with friends) to the girl who goes to bed ‘eventually’ and gets up in time for lunch…also not an ideal schedule…it might be time soon to actually set the alarm on the clock…
Wanna know something? Now there are three songs stuck in my head…ADHD under the sea by the HolderMess, and I’m so pregnant by Iggy Azalea/WhatsUpMoms, and Rested by Royals (and possibly the Murray’s??)…that second one has me wondering where in the world the idea of push presents came from…like dude, isn’t the baby the present at that point?!?! Yesterday I was singing the picky eater anthem all day (are you hungry for some meat spaghetti do I make you feel like eating you say no not really ‘cause oh I got myself a picky eater, she will always refuse what I feed her)…I love music so much. I’m thankful for whomever invented music.
…and I am well aware my posts lately have been all over the place…my brain has felt like a ping pong ball and it has come out in my writing…it doesn’t bother me, and I am secure enough in myself that I really don’t care if I lose followers…I don’t have my blog set up to earn revenue from visits so it really makes no difference…and to be honest, since the point in college when I found out my views had spiked because someone was pouring through my posts trying to find a way to get me in trouble, my stats getting too good makes me feel nervous…I’m glad I had someone at that time who was a good informant letting me know that this person was annoyed at the random string of numbers I’d used as a moniker…I may have been super annoyed but I also knew that keeping the peace was more important than most other things.